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April 3, 2010

Hi all,

We have tried calling as many people as possible, but did want to let you know that Richard died a peaceful death last night at home, surrounded by family and love.   His obituary will appear in the Indy Star on Monday (as well as the Toronto Globe & Mail and Montreal Gazette, I hope!). Visitation is scheduled for Wednesday  (4-8) at Flanner & Buchanan in Carmel followed by a funeral Mass at St. Elizabeth Seton in Carmel on Thursday at 10:30AM.

We are truly indebted to all of you who supported our family over the last two years since Richard’s diagnosis.  Quite simply, you carried us through the challenges we faced and we will be forever grateful.

Jane, Chris, Meg and Mike

8 Comments leave one →
  1. Dick Moffat permalink
    April 3, 2010 11:02 pm

    My deepest condolences. I worked with Rich a long time ago and only recently reconnected with him, only to find of his illness and prognosis last fall.

    In our short correspondence he made it very apparent that he was completely in charge of his situation and that he was accepting of his reality with the same ease as I woud expect from him from the time we spent together so many years ago. Rich was a solid guy.

    No doubt the love of Jane and your kids was a large factor in his brave acceptance of his fate. They must be SO proud of their Dad despite all their sadness today.

    He will be missed by anyone who knew him. Goodbye old friend.

    Dick Moffat
    London, Ontario

  2. Charlie Bu permalink
    April 4, 2010 12:59 am


    My deepest condolences. I had many travelling together with Richard both in China and US, especially he used to lead me to CBOT learning Future market operation in Aug 2003.

    I have been recieving his email of cereal market advice very often although he was fighting illness. He did great help for my job and China agribusiness development. I will miss him forever in my heart.

    From this website, knew both you had many trips together. Remember he was very proud of his family and introduced me to all of you by a family dinner in Indy.

    I miss him.

    Charlie Bu

    Beijing, China

  3. Laurie permalink
    April 4, 2010 9:30 am

    I’ve had the honour of calling Richard my brother-in-law for the past thirty years and have always admired him for his quick intellect and even quicker wit. This was still evident only a week ago as we had our last iChat and where he was quick to recoil as our daughter Hanna sneezed, telling her that “she got him” and wondering which one of us our new puppy most resembled.

    Richard was truly inspirational in living each and every minute of his last few years, putting Jane and the kids above all else and not letting his disease dictate his life. I have very much appreciated following his journey through this blog and have a whole new appreciation for the simple joys of life.

    On that note, and despite a heavy heart, I am going out to enjoy the sunshine on this Easter Sunday because that’s what Richard would have done.

    Goodbye dear Richard, rest in peace and thank you for showing us how it’s done.


  4. Deb and Scott Millard permalink
    April 4, 2010 2:09 pm

    Scott and I extend our deepest sympathy to all of you at this sad time. We have cherished our friendship over the years since your family moved from Burlington and have admired Richard’s love of life and enthusiasm for everything he did.
    The strength that he showed through his illness is a testament to his character and faith and to his family and friends who have surrounded him with their love and support.
    Peace and Goodness to you
    Deb Frame and Scott Millard

  5. Cindy & Jock Fairbairn permalink
    April 4, 2010 3:11 pm

    Cindy and I were deeply saddened by this news. Last summer at RMGC, after winning the Low Gross prize for the second year in a row (I believe) at the Centennial Challenge Tournament, Richard expressed to me his hope and desire to be back again in 2010. Although this was not to be, there will be many a toast, thoughts and conversations of our collective many fond memories of Richard. His spirit will live on….. such a nice guy.

    Cindy & Jock

  6. Toni and Garry Nelson permalink
    April 4, 2010 4:00 pm

    Jane and Family — We were so very sorry to hear of Richard’s passing. This must be a tough time for you and your family, and we hope you are somewhat comforted by knowing that Richard is pain free and at peace. We are so glad you had time to share so much wonderful family time with Richard this past year,and hope you know that you touched us all by sharing it so beautifully and openly on your blog. Our hearts and prayers are with you all.

    Love, Toni and Garry

  7. Tony Fitzpatrick permalink
    April 6, 2010 10:01 am

    Dear Jane and family,

    I am sad to hear of Richards passing. He was a true gentleman and a great golf companion in our earlier years at Val Morin.
    I was glad to see him this past summer at the picnic and could not help to admire his positive attitude at a time when many would have been deep in despair.
    The two subjects we spoke of were family and golf and a few fond memories of summers in Val Morin. I will be thinking of him when I open the cottage this spring.
    My deepest sympathies…
    Tony Fitzpatrick
    Toronto, Ontario

  8. Gary permalink
    April 9, 2010 2:37 pm

    Dear Jane and kids,

    I am truly saddened to learn of Richard’s passing. My Mom put me onto this blog and I was following all of your posts and enjoying all of the stories of your travels. Richard, or Mr. Lafave as I will always remember him, was a true gentleman who was always quick with a smile. I’ll never forget the time my brother Neil was fooling around with a B.B. gun in the backyard and one of the B.B.’s whizzed by Mr. Lafave as he was outside gardening. Always the kind soul he called Neil over to the fence and kindly suggested Neil aim in the other direction. I don’t think my brother ever played with that B.B. gun again.

    Richard was a great next door neighbour and an even greater person. Rest in peace, Mr. Lafave.


    Gary James

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