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June 13, 2010

June 13, 2010

I thought it might be a good time to provide one more update on the blog so we could let everyone know that we’re doing all right. I’m not sure what we’ll do with this blog in the future – it has served its purpose well and perhaps we will make it private for family updates going forward. We’re just not sure yet.

Our trip to Canada in May for Richard’s Memorial was wonderful in so many ways. It began with a celebration for our next door neighbour from Burlington named Andy who just celebrated his 100th birthday. Andy still manages to get out and walk every day and he is truly an inspiration! It was so wonderful to see the Donna Court gang and such a gift to have time with them to remember Richard and the many funny antics he initiated on Donna Court. His trademark trick of cutting lawns in the middle of the night and creating “designs” was fondly remembered.

The Memorial weekend in Montreal was wonderful! It was so great to see family and friends who travelled from many places to be with us at Royal Montreal. The sun was shining and Richard would have been so happy to be there on such a beautiful day! Richard’s cousin Diane arranged for golf on the Saturday for those willing to brave the rains and she and her husband Greg very kindly hosted a barbeque at their house that evening which was just a great opportunity to visit with all the cousins.

Our children are moving forward with their lives and we often joke that Richard is working overtime in heaven pulling strings and influencing their next steps. Chris was officially admitted to the Masters in Library Science program at IU and should finish in August of 2011, Meg landed a job that seems to be a perfect next step for her and will begin her MBA in the fall at the University of Denver and Mike will attend Bishops University in Lennoxville, Quebec in September. I actually returned to work on June 1st. I hadn’t planned to go back until the fall, thinking the children might need me to be available for them, but somehow the time seemed right and I am happy to be back.

I realize now that one of the greatest gifts Richard gave us was his passion for music. When the children were younger and involved with me in Suzuki piano, their teacher would comment that music is the language of the soul. In the last month, we have had several experiences where just the “right song” is played at a most unusual time and we would feel Richard’s presence. One recent experience for me was a Saturday morning when I woke early and thought I would run on the Monon and then go to the Carmel Farmer’s Market. Just as I arrived and parked the car, a James Taylor Song was being played at the market by a live artist. The song was “Something in the Way She Moves” and the first words I heard were ” I feel fine”. We do feel comfort from these “signs”.

Last weekend we again participated in the Relay for Life. Our good friend Mar was our fearless Captain once more and her enthusiasm for this event was contagious! It was good to be with so many who had participated last year while Richard was still with us.

And so life moves on whether we wish it or not. I have included a slideshow below which includes Andy’s party in Burlington, another picture of the tree planted in Richard’s memory at Royal Montreal and a few pictures from the Relay. We continue to be humbled by the kindness of others as we have been throughout this journey.

Thank you all for sharing your memories and your words of support with us!

Jane, Chris, Meg and Mike

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4 Comments leave one →
  1. Clare permalink
    June 13, 2010 2:58 pm

    Congratulations to all three Lafave kids and good luck with your studies and other new endeavours in the fall. We are so proud of you. The picture slideshow is great Jane. Hard to believe that Andy is 100, guess I’d better get out walking every day.


  2. Toni and Garry Nelson permalink
    June 13, 2010 11:22 pm

    Hi Jane — Thanks so much for letting us know how the memorial went, and how you all are doing. Toni’s sister lost her husband 3 years ago and experienced many things that were similar to what you felt with the song, etc. She even had some nocturnal “visits” from her late husband which were very real to her and very comforting. We think it’s completely possible that the deceased try to communicate with us. If so, we know Richard will be watching you and your kids and will be so glad that you’re moving on as best you can. We know you must miss him terribly. He was such a vibrant, larger-than-life individual and we know he left lots of empty space in your lives. We’re so glad to hear you’re honoring his memory by remembering all the wonderful things you did together, and getting together with family and friends to reminisce about this lovely man. We feel privileged to have known him and our hearts go out to all of you as you miss him and remember him, as we do, with love and admiration. Warmest regards, Toni and Garry

  3. Mark Fletcher permalink
    June 24, 2010 9:20 am

    Jane: Glad to see the update. Sorry I could not attend the event at Royal Montreal. I too think of Rich often and have my two golf prints from our trip hanging in the rec room along with some of the 1400 photos we all took. Sounds like the children all have great plans! Take care of yourself and I will give you a buzz next time I get to Indy.
    Mark Fletcher

  4. Diane Drury permalink
    July 26, 2010 12:10 pm

    Hi Jane, Christopher, Meagan and Mike… I just wanted you to know that Richard’s tree is doing very well… They cut down the older tree, and Richard’s now has lots of room to grow and gets lots of sunlight… I think of him everytime I play the blue – lots of great memories of this truly remarkable man!

    I will send you an udpated photo of the tree…

    Take care, and when in town, just let me know so we can arrange a visit and golf game!


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